Letting Go of Regret

Providing a sober living space to women in Santa Fe, we know how important letting go of regret can be for successful recovery. We all experience regret at one time or another during out lives, but it’s important to learn to forgive ourselves so that we can move forward. We cannot go back in time and change those things for which we regret, but we can live an authentic life going forward. In order to do that it’s important to let go of the regret that might otherwise drag us down into a depression, or worse a relapse. The steps below are helpful for letting go of regret.

Letting Go of Regret

  1. Opportunities – Look at past mistakes as opportunities rather than regrets. You can choose to learn from your mistakes or wallow in self pity. Choose wisely.
  2. Forgive yourself – Forgiveness is the key to recovery and that includes forgiving yourself. It’s a difficult task, one that many of us struggle with, but the more you do it the easier it becomes. Start small and forgive yourself for the little things before working up to the bigger things.
  3. Focus on the positive – It can be easy to let your mind get stuck in all the things you didn’t do or the things you did do while under the influence. Do your best to shut down those negative thoughts and focus instead on the positive way you are living your life now. 
  4. Journal – Journaling is a great way to remind yourself how far you’ve come in your recovery. Reading about those first days and weeks of your recovery can illustrate how far you’ve come in the process. Taking the time to put pen to paper is also a wonderful way to distract your brain from falling into the pool of regret. 
  5. Talk it out – Confide in a friend or therapist about that which you regret. Confession is good for the soul and telling another person about the things you regret doing can lessen their impact on you.